A woman was left reeling after she discovered that her partner had gone behind her back to calculate exactly how much money she makes.
In an anonymous post on Mumsnet, the woman from the UK explained that her she and fiancé keep their finances separate – a decision made by her husband-to-be.
She said that he doesn’t want a joint bank account and believes that she is ‘not entitled to the money he earns.’
Despite the fact that he earns “a substantial amount more” than her, the couple roughly split all of their bills evenly, with the woman paying out for their childcare and putting money aside for their wedding and her partner paying the mortgage and bills.
The mum said that she’s now back to work full-time, 15 months after having her daughter, and she’s been offered a second pay rise.
Excited to tell her fiancé the good news, she told him the salary she was on and how much it would be increasing.
But when he went behind her back and did a government check on her monthly income, she was less than impressed.
She said: “He’s just sent me a screenshot from work from the gov website and has worked out exactly how much a month I’ll get after tax and NI.
“I don’t want to seem ungrateful but he’s the one who wants to keep our finances separate – we’re not secretive over our pay, we’ll describe our monthly pay as ‘I’ve been paid about X amount this month.
“I feel like he’s just hypocritically invaded my privacy and I’m a bit miffed off. I’ve told him this but he’s claiming he thought we were ‘close like that’,” reports Daily Mail.
The woman’s post has since been deleted, but before it was removed she asked fellow Mumsnet users whether she was being unreasonable for being annoyed that he’d gone to such lengths to find out her pay.
The post racked up dozens of replies, with a few people telling her to seriously question her wedding plans, while others urged her to be careful in regards to the mortgage.
A couple of mums were also baffled as to why their outgoings were the same when he earned more than her.
But some users said it would be “weird to be upset about it” as it can help to plan out their budgets.